Taking a compliment graciously has been an ongoing challenge for me, from a child to a grown woman. I often cringe when I hear other women not taking compliments, because I understand exactly what that is like. But, why not accept credit where credit is due? I often negate compliments given to me, and it’s a work in progress to shift this mentality.
A recent study published in Pacific Standard Magazine, suggests women are so unsettled by compliments that it actually affected mental performance tests, especially when praised for appearance.
How did you react the last time you were paid a compliment?
✔ Brushed it off.
✔ Acted surprised (or actually were surprised).
✔ Gave credit to someone else.
✔ Ignored it – it never happened.
✔ Completely negate the compliment.
While these are all typical responses, why do we do this? Why don’t we accept and acknowledge that we deserve that compliment?
With that said, there are no reasons some well-intentioned words wreak such havoc on us. We should be able to accept a compliment simply and with grace. We must learn to acknowledge when people connect with us sincerely.
I often cringe when I hear other women not taking compliments, because I understand exactly what that is like.
The Simple Response: Thank you.
When said from the heart, these two words are appropriate enough. They let the complimenter know that you, as the complimentee, are grateful. Be sure you give eye contact.
The Public Response: Share the compliment.
As a “brand,” there may be occasion to accept a compliment in front of a crowd. Whether accepting an award or being toasted, it’s best to share your compliment with the people who helped you get where you are. Be prepared. Make a list. Check it twice (you don’t want to miss out on thanking someone special). And reiterate your thank-you afterward, one-on-one. That extra step will show you are grateful and didn’t just share your compliment for show.
The Internal Response: Believe it.
The biggest part of accepting a compliment with grace is to truly believe you are worthy of that compliment. Better said than done? It does take practice.
This week, let’s all try to accept our compliments graciously and humbly. You deserve it!